'You need to put your **** in a bath of cold water and realign your chakras.'

The patient was twice my age and roughly twice my size, standing no more than three inches away from me, shouting and clearly less than happy. I was on a home visit and not succeeding in persuading her to be admitted to the psychiatric ward.

To this day, I am not sure quite how I calmed her down, but my training and experience as a psychiatrist worked. The encounter left me shaken, wondering whether I could have prevented it and wary on home visits for some time to come.

All doctors are likely to encounter angry patients or relatives. General practice, psychiatry and the Emergency Department are obvious areas of risk, but anger can be encountered anywhere. Rather than having to face a situation like the one above, taking steps to recognise potential anger and manage this can be preferable for you, your patient and your colleagues.

Lighting the fuse

Anger can be triggered by bad news, fear, misunderstanding and being kept waiting. Some patients arrive already angry. A brief delay in being seen, or a receptionist that they perceive to be rude may light the fuse.

Early warning signs of an impending outburst include irritable comments, sighing and agitation. Keeping people informed with respect to delays, and apologising can help limit this.

A more frightening situation is when a patient becomes angry during a consultation. You may sense that the patient is not happy with the way things are going. Continuing in the same vein is unlikely to resolve things. Defusing the situation at this stage is preferable for all concerned.

When patients feel as though they are not heard and their concerns are being ignored, their anger can escalate.

Acknowledge their frustration

A helpful first step in turning things around can be to acknowledge their frustration. When patients feel as though they are not heard and their concerns are being ignored, their anger can escalate. By showing that you recognise they are not happy, and that you want to understand why, you can provide your patient with the opportunity to share their fears or frustrations and, hopefully, find a way to resolve these.

However, the words 'I understand how you feel' are not always helpful. A very angry patient may well challenge your assumption, however kindly meant. It may be better to say something such as, 'I can see that you are angry/upset by this', and provide them with an opportunity to explain what has angered them. Understanding the source of their frustration may help you find a solution.

When anger turns violent

A minority of patients become violent. Some may have a history of violence, while others might be more likely to become aggressive because of pain, psychosis, confusion, fear or intoxication. While knowledge of your patient's history may help you identify those with a higher risk of violence and take appropriate measures, such as being escorted and making sure colleagues know where you are, in other cases the aggression may be unpredictable.

It's vital to protect yourself against sudden outbursts of violent anger. For example, ensuring that the furniture in your room is arranged such that you can easily leave but also that your patient does not feel trapped can be helpful in reducing tension and maintaining safety. Unfortunately, it may be that you are unable to rearrange the room to suit. If you are concerned that a room is potentially unsafe, I would advise you to raise this concern promptly.